Chelsea//Portrait

A few months ago, some friends, my sisters & I decided to come together to do a creative portrait shoot. We wouldn't be getting paid for it or anything. It was simply for fun. But sometimes, those are the best types of shoots. We had a vision for what we wanted this shoot to be & got to work trying to make it come to life. I asked my friend Chelsea if she could model, my girl Lexi volunteered to do flowers, and my sweet sister Margaret Ann did hair and makeup. Oh..and my other sweet sister Genevieve came as moral support, and to be our bag carrier & coat rack ;) 

We all met in Columbia on a windy, 46 degree afternoon. It was COLD, and poor Chelsea was shivering terribly! We would shoot for about 5 minutes or less, then bundle her up in all of our coats until she was warm enough to brace the cold & wind again. She was SO tough and hung in there the entire time, not complaining once. It was so worth it though, because LOOK AT HER! She couldn't be more gorgeous if she tried!!!! 

I've always loved doing portrait sessions, especially creative portraits. Most people are a bit hesitant to do something fun & dramatic like this, but we wanted to show that it is possible and can turn out beautifully! Many brides are also hesitant to do large, dramatic bouquets, hair pieces & makeup, which is totally understandable. But again, we wanted to show that it can be done in a very tasteful & lovely way. Especially for photos, the bigger the better. If I were a bride again, I would do something different and dramatic like this. And if you're a bride out there & want to do something like this, but aren't 100% sold on the idea, Lexi & I were talking about the fact that you could do a big bouquet or floral headpiece for your bridals, instead of your wedding day. Because, who really wants to carry around a 15lb bouquet on their wedding day?! Yet, we thought this would give brides the idea and option of doing something like this for their bridals instead. 

Coming together & collaborating with other creatives is SERIOUSLY such a joy. It's so refreshing and gets you out of the rut of doing and shooting the same type of stuff day in and day out. It's also a great way to meet new people in the area who are in your field. One of my goals for 2018 is to collaborate more, which is a huge step for me because I am such an introvert. But regardless, it's necessary, in any career, to get out of your comfort zone, do different things, meet new people, and create new work. It truly refuels you and helps you continue for the long haul. So, here a few (or not so few) images from our shoot. I took over 500 images, so narrowing it down for this post was a bit difficult! But, hopefully you enjoy the work & the excessive amount of photos isn't too much ;) 

I want to give ALL my love and gratitude for these incredible ladies. They seriously made this shoot come to L I F E and I couldn't have done this at all without them. The result of this photo shoot is due to their talent and work. 

Chelsea, I can't thank you enough for putting up with our crazy ideas and for letting us drag you out into the freezing cold weather to do these. You were absolutely perfect, graceful, and beautiful. You are such a wonderful girl & I so appreciate you sharing your beauty with us. 

 Lexi, every time I work with you, I am amazed at what you can create with flowers & leaves. Not only does it take talent to rig THAT many flowers together without having them fall out, but it takes more talent to envision what you want your work to look like, and then know the steps to bring your idea to life. You're crazy talented. But beyond that, you have a beautiful soul and fun personality. Your love for Jesus is contagious, and so is your laugh! I feel blessed to have you in my life.  (PS- Lexi is giving away a *10*% discount on florals to anyone who books a wedding with me! So pass the word along-the deal is good until the end of February!) 

Margaret Ann, I was just on the phone the other day with someone and told them how you literally are good at everything you do. And you could choose basically any career or hobby & be fantastic at it. It's slightly annoying and I'm kinda jealous, but I'll get over it one day ;) But for real, thank you for always sharing your talent and for always helping me with all my photo shoots for all these years. You're encouraging, full of joy, and always so selfless. I love you more than you know. 

Geneveive, we joked with you the entire photo shoot about how you wouldn't stop suggesting that Chelsea wear the white dress for some of the photos. But I am SO glad we listened to you because those are seriously some of my favorite images from this shoot. You always say that Mog & I stole all the talent in the family, but that is NOT true at all. You have such an eye for beauty, placement, and design. You give a fresh perspective on everything. Thank you for coming along and helping us out, it meant so much to me. I love you forever. 

Tips for Choosing a Wedding Photographer

Good morning friends!! 

I am writing this on the floor next to a big window in our apartment, watching these HUGE white snowflakes fall to the ground. It is a gorgeous sight. I feel like everywhere else in the country has gotten snow already, except where I live. But thankfully that's not the case anymore :) 

Since this is the time when people start booking wedding photographers for the upcoming year, requests start coming in. Unfortunately, a few brides have requested to book me on a date that I am already booked. When this happens, a lot of brides ask me for help or recommendations, because they feel lost, overwhelmed, and unsure of what to look for when it comes to choosing the right photographer for their day. So, if you are getting married this year or know of someone who IS, hopefully this will help you when it comes time to choose your photographer! 

• Choose someone you like & enjoy. Between the engagement session, bridal session, and wedding day, you will most likely be spending more than 12 hours with your photographer. He or she is literally your shadow the entire wedding day. So if it's someone whose personality annoys you or who you don't enjoy being around, this will make for a LOOONG day. Therefore, make sure you ENJOY the person. I try to meet with all my clients before the wedding, to make sure we get to know each other and build a friendship. It's super awkward when you show up on the wedding day, having never met the bride or groom. So, meet up with your photographer before your wedding or grab dinner with them after the engagement session to make sure it is someone you enjoy and want by your side on your wedding day. 

• Choose someone who is talented, creative, and who reflects your style. Some people settle for a cheaper photographer because their budget is tight (I get that!). Yet, people who do this regret it in the long run. They wish they would have invested in a talented photographer. Sure, in the moment, it feels like a LOT of money, but it's so worth it. When my sister got married, she was a 19 year old, poor college student, who was paying for her wedding almost entirely on her own. Even though her budget was super tight, she invested in a wonderful photographer (shout out to Erin Drago!). It was probably the most expensive thing she invested in on her wedding day, but she had no regrets. You will get what you pay for, so choose to invest in someone talented & who reflects your personal style. Photographers pour countless hours into traveling, shooting, editing and spend lots of money on workshops, equipment, taxes, business expenses etc. They put in a TON of work, so value it and don't settle for someone cheap. 

• Choose someone who will give you the most bang for your buck. Some photographers only give about 100-200 images from the wedding day, which to me is craziness because on average, photographers take somewhere between 1000-2500 images (or more!!) on a wedding day!! Obviously not all those photos are gallery worthy, but I give my clients at least 800 photos (usually more depending on the size of the wedding & how long I shoot). Ask them about this upfront so you aren't disappointed when you receive your gallery. 

There is obviously much more that goes into choosing a wedding photographer, so if you have ANY questions at all, I'd be more than happy to help out! Even if I am not your top choice, I can point you to many other friends & creatives in the industry who would meet all these qualifications and MORE! Happy Wednesday & for those who are enjoying their snow day, I hope you have lots of hot chocolate, blankets, and a fire in your fireplace <3 

5 Things I Learned the First Year of Marriage

Hi friends! Happy New Year!! What a whirlwind these past few weeks have been!! Christmas, New Years, and our anniversary all land within a week of each other, so this time of year is crazy, but fun.

Chris & I just celebrated our *FIRST* year of marriage this past weekend!!! Its hard to believe a year has already come and gone. Chris and I were talking today on the way to the airport about if the first year of marriage few by this fast, it's only going to fly by faster as the years go on. But with everyday that passes, I grow in gratitude for the gift of marriage, given by Jesus. It truly is a wonderful gift, one I feel undeserved to experience. Its super fun being married to your best friend. But marriage is also work. Whatever we neglect will eventually fail. If I stop watering my plants, they will die. If I stop working on my marriage, it will eventually die. Sure, it's work, but it's so much fun. 

Going into marriage, I had no idea what to expect. Everything was unfamiliar & unknown. Lots of people gave us advice and tips, so we knew a good bit. But knowing and applying are two different things. I work with a lot of sweet couples & brides, and we often talk for months about the actual wedding day. But rarely do we talk about the marriage. The end result of the wedding day, which is a lifelong commitment to your best friend. I'm obviously not a marriage expert by any means, but I figured I’d share a few things I learned this year in marriage. 

• Jesus MUST remain your first love. 

Marriage is a reflection of our personal relationship with Jesus. It is not intended to replace it. Over the summer, there was a period of time where I was unhealthily idolizing Chris, looking to him for the main source of love, affection, and security. I was feeling lonely & insecure & wanted to run to him to fill that void. The void that only Jesus can fill. When we put those expectations on our spouse, to do only what Jesus can do, they are going to fail us. Because they weren’t intended to be Jesus. Psalm 63:3 says that the love of the Lord is better than life! That's the kind of love relationship we can have with Jesus. And when He is first in our affections & desires, our marriage will function properly. We will stop placing impossible burdens on our spouses that they need to fulfill, because Jesus will fulfill them. It's so easy to idolize our spouse, but we must fight to keep our relationship with Jesus #1. HE is the Giver, my spouse is just the gift. 

• Always look for ways to out serve the other

Selfishness is the root of a lot of sin, conflict, and even marriage problems. Each human being is a selfish sinner, and when 2 of them get married, it could potentially be disastrous. But my husband & I have noticed that the more we try and serve the other, the less conflict there is in our home. The more we are looking out for each other’s needs & desires, the less we are looking out for our own. And you will see that the more you try to please your spouse, the more you will personally find pleasure in pleasing them. If you both have this mindset, then you both will get served. Every morning, Chris wakes up and makes me coffee. And while he's doing that, I make him breakfast. We both get served & both find joy in it. Even Jesus, when He was on this earth, “didn’t come to be served, but to serve & to give His life as a ransom for many.” (Matt 20:28)  If this was Jesus’ mindset, and my marriage is intended to reflect Jesus, then this should be my mindset too. 

(every morning consists of coffee & smoothies at our house) 

• Communication is key (seriously)  

Everyone who gave us pre-marital advice told us this. And after a while, I was like “yea yea ok.” But really…it's so crutial for a flourishing marriage. My husband is WAY better at this than me, but I am actively working on getting better. There is a new level of closeness you feel with someone when you communicate with them. About any and everything. I have learned (after not being great at this) that Chris feels loved by me when I open up to him and share what's on my heart. Big or small. Important or non important. We love sitting down (every night if possible) at the dinner table and sharing with each other about our day, dreams, struggles, or joys. One night, we talked and talked, and before we knew it, it had been 2 hours! Of us just sitting at the table and communicating with each other. Chris is SO great at asking me questions that prove to me that he cares deeply about me. And knowing that he cares makes me want to communicate with him even more. So maybe communication isn’t so great in your marriage. A start to making it great is asking your spouse questions that show you care. Put your phone down and actually listen. The more caring questions you ask & the more willing you are to listen, the sooner those doors of communication will swing open. 

• Go on dates! 

People have jokingly told us that every night is date night without kids, which could be true. Yet, plans come up, week nights get filled, the TV gets turned on, and the night is soon over, without really having a quality conversation with your spouse. Sure, it's easy for Chris and I to spend time together, since its just the 2 of us. But it's not always intentional time. One thing Chris & I said we would do every week is get alone together, out of the house if possible, and do something fun. No phones. No one else. Just us. And those nights truly do differ from any other night, even if it looks slightly similar. The difference is we are intentional with our time and conversation. There are no distractions & we can properly pour into each other. This has been so life giving for our marriage & something I look forward to every week. There are a few older, married couples I know who have flourishing marriages. And you know what? They are religious about date night. So before kids come & life gets any crazier, make this a habit. It will then become a natural thing you do every week, even years down the road. 

• Marriage is made up of mundane moments

Paul David Tripp said this in a marriage study we did this year, and it couldn't be more true. Our life primarily consists of mundane moments. Sure, there are big milestone moments and special seasons you will go through, but a majority of our lives consist of the mundane. It's easy to bypass those moments, because of social media, which glorifies the big moments and showcases the best of our highlight reel. But the mundane moments should be celebrated, enjoyed, and cherished. Chris and I were talking over our anniversary trip that some of our favorite memories from this year weren't even anything that grand or spectacular. They were times like when Chris came into my office one day, grabbed my hand & told me we were going for a drive. We rode down to my favorite field, walked through the tall green grass, and sat down on a blanket and just talked. Or the time we were coming home from Louisiana, after being in the car together for over 50 hours that week, and we were cracking up and laughing hysterically (I think the reason that was special was because we were surprised we hadn't killed each other yet ;) ) So, what are you doing in the mundane? Most of our marriage (and life!)  is spent here, so treasure the small things. Take lots of pictures, keep a journal and write stuff down, because you will forget it!  Don't dismiss the mundane, rather, enjoy it and make the most of those moments. 

I am thankful for this year & all that I learned, and am looking forward to continuing to learn as the years go on. I talked to a married couple the other day who have probably been married over 20 years, and they said this past year of marriage was the best one yet. However, that didn't come by being passive. That came from actively working, being faithful, enduring hardship, openly communicating, apologizing quickly, and over using "I love you". Im thankful for the couples in my life who model marriage well for me. And since I work in a field where lots of people are getting married, I am passionate about my couples, friends, and even acquaintances experiencing Christ centered, life giving, joyful, and committed marriages. If you would ever like to talk about marriage, being a wife, how I've failed at doing and being both, or if I can help listen or point you to another resource, I would absolutely love to! Lots of love to you all!! 

Quincy + Rachel

If I am not careful, weddings can kinda grow stale to me. Its just another day, just another wedding, just another couple. Yet, this couple helped refresh my spirit and come to a deeper appreciation for shooting weddings. I think in our culture today, marriage isn't viewed as a sacred, lifelong commitment anymore. Weddings are just a thing people do and an excuses for people to get wasted. Being married isn't about a committed relationship, but rather about the status. I don't mean to be rude or speak for every wedding & marriage, I have just seen this a lot over the past 5 years of shooting weddings. However, it is SO refreshing to witness a wedding where a couple values and celebrates marriage in the way God intended it to be; for life, for joy & for Him. 

Quincy & Rachel's wedding day was a true celebration of the gift of marriage God has given.  SO full of love and joy. Their entire wedding party was thrilled for them, so many happy tears were shed, and there was so much evident love between Rachel & Quincy. As I was taking their photos after the ceremony, I told each of them to tell one another something they love about each other. I took a few steps back and shot from a distance, but watching them exalt and shower each other with words of genuine love was SO touching. I think I teared up about 39 times that day, watching Rachel & her dad's first look, hearing all the prayers her bridesmaids said over her, and watching Quincy & his mom during their mother son dance (which I shouldn't have been crying over that because I barely know them!) 

All this to say, their wedding reminded me of how special marriage truly is, it helped me remember WHY I love shooting weddings, and it was just overall so much fun. Their wedding posse was super fun and the weather & lighting that day was a photographer's DREAM! Sorry about the overload of photos...I am the worst at narrowing down photos from wedding days to post! Hope you all can feel the love & joy that marked their wedding day as you look through these photos. Thank you again Quincy & Rachel for loving the Lord & each other like you do. It was a blessing to ME to witness you two become husband and wife xoxo

ThankFULL

I have ALWAYS loved Thanksgiving. I think I get just as excited about it than I do about Christmas. There is something so special about Thanksgiving to me. For us, this is the only time a year we see some of our extended family. Growing up, we were super close to all my mom's family, her aunts and uncles & cousins. We would have family members at the Thanksgiving dinner table that I had grown up knowing, but had no idea how they were related to me. Come to find out, they were my 2nd cousin twice removed on my mom's dad's side. Or something like that. Thanksgiving growing up was always a LOT of family with a LOT of food and a LOT of conversations. All day long. 

I have many, sweet Thanksgiving memories. One year, when I was a little girl, we went and visited my great grandmother's house, where my mom spent a lot of her childhood. It was like stepping back in time, and my mom & aunts had gobs of stories & memories from growing up there. There is also this cousin, (I guess he's actually my 2nd cousin?!) who every single year, my mom, aunt, sisters & I will always find a way to put pepper in his drink. Every year. He always leaves his drink sitting around, and when he isn't looking, we slip it into his tea. You would think after all these years, he would keep a close watch on his drink. 

This year, Thanksgiving looked a little different. This is my first Thanksgiving being married. I remember last year at this time, I was up to my EYEBALLS in trying to graduate college, projects, senior exhibitions, exams, and planning a wedding. It was the craziest season of life. And, this is the first Thanksgiving in 2 years that we are NOT planning a wedding! Two years ago this time Gen was about to get married, and then it was me last year. So we thought it was going to be a very relaxing, stress free Thanksgiving. 

Until my parents, who have been trying to sell their house for MONTHS now, finally got an offer on their house. And they closed THREE days ago. Yes, the day before Thanksgiving. They have been frantically looking for a house to buy, put 11 offers on houses that, come to find out, had just been put under contract. That happened 11 times....! Unreal. And to make it even crazier, the house they bought won't be ready to move in until December 18th. Thank the Lord they have an RV that they will be living in until they get to move in. So needless to say, the past few weeks have NOT been relaxing, or stress free.

As I was saying, this Thanksgiving looked a little different. Since my parent's and siblings have been in the craziness of moving, we weren't able to make it to our huge family gathering that we always go to. And since my parents don't have a house at the moment, we celebrated in the yard of my brother in law's family's house. It was so sweet and dreamy. Growing up, this family WAS like blood family to us. We did everything with them and our memories with them go waaaay back. They felt like brothers & sisters that just lived in a different house. After all those years of growing up together, John & Gen fell in love, and now they have been married almost 2 years!! And its so cool, because now they really are family. Even though it doesn't feel any different. They were so sweet to open up their home and let all of us celebrate with them. We ate outside under twinkling lights, ate so much GOOD food, sat around the fire pit, all loaded up in our cars to help my parents move one last load from their old house into storage,  all sat around their den playing a very competitive game of Catch Phrase, and then went out to do some Black Friday shopping. 

I heard a quote the other day by Paul David Tripp and he said, "True love grows best in the soil of gratitude." I thought about it, and realized it couldn't be more true. The more gratitude I have for my husband, the more I love him. The more gratitude I have for my family, the more I love them. The more gratitude I have for my job, the more I love it. I heard a sermon on Luke 17 the other week, about the 10 lepers who get healed by Jesus. All of them were healed, but only ONE of them came back, in gratitude, and "threw himself at the feet of Jesus and thanked Him." (17:16a)  I always want to be aware of Jesus' love for me, that propels me to fall at His feet in gratitude. The verse before that one says, "One of them, when he saw he was healed, came back, praising God in a loud voice." When we see Jesus, what He has done for us, and how much He loves us, we will fall down at His feet in praise. The more I see Him, the more grateful I will be to Him, and the more I will fall in love with Him. 

I have also come to realize that it doesn't matter what state, city, or house you live in. What matters is that you have great people, friends, and family in your life. I would rather live in my little apartment, with my wonderful husband, have a sweet marriage, and have wonderful friends & family to do life with, instead of living in my favorite city in my dream house. And that is exactly what I have, and I couldn't be more thankful. I have some friends who don't have the best Thanksgiving memories, who don't have great family to celebrate with, and who feel way more lonely on Thanksgiving than they are grateful. If that is you, I'd love to celebrate Thanksgiving with you next year. My family isn't a perfect family, but we have lots of love and great food to go around. I might not have as much as some of the world has, but I have WAY more than most of the world. Jesus is the giver of ALL the gifts in my life. And to Him I owe the MOST thanks. 

I hope everyone enjoyed their Thanksgiving, and will be celebrating family, friends, and left overs for the next few days. xoxo